The last two days has been challenging for me especially when I decided to talk to my toddler instead of time outs and other forms of punishment. It really amazes me how the devil throws these situation to test my will. And it all comes together. These are situations which never happened before I made the decision. But I am so glad that I stuck to what I decided.
Sometimes we just have to do that. We have to force ourselves and be determined to stick to our resolutions. You may not feel like it but you just have to. Especially if this for the best for both you and your family.
I noticed how happy my son was when I was talking and explaining to him rather than raise my voice and give him a time out. He did not have his ego hurt and he was more willing to do things out of understanding rather than the fear of being punished.
And wow... did I feel better. It seems like talking and reasoning with your child demands more patience, however, try yelling at your kids and see how that makes you feel. I am telling you from experience the former is an easier choice.
Parenting is lot of trial and error.
It definitely does not have 'one method fits all' approach. You have to try everything and see what works best for you and your family in that particular season. And just when you think you have it all figured out, a new seasons dawns in and you need a whole new parenting approach.
Bottom line is your children need boundaries, rules and lots and lots of love. They grow as strong individuals in that environment. Our work is to make sure we give them these without hurting their ego. A 2 year old does have ego. I speak from experience.
Happy parenting.
Jency
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